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Written from her dual perspective as a psychologist and a mother, Lerner brings us deeply personal tales that run the gamut from the hilarious to the heart-wrenching. From birth or adoption to the empty nest, \u003cem\u003eThe Mother Dance\u003c\/em\u003e teaches the basic lessons of motherhood: that we are not in control of what happens to our children, that most of what we worry about doesn't happen, and that our children will love us with all our imperfections if we can do the same for them. Here is a gloriously witty and moving book about what it means to dance the mother dance.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ch3\u003eBack Jacket\u003c\/h3\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFrom the celebrated author of \u003cem\u003eThe Dance of Anger\u003c\/em\u003e comes an extraordinary book about mothering and how it transforms us -- and all our relationships -- inside and out. Written from her dual perspective as a psychologist and a mother, Lerner brings us deeply personal tales that run the gamut from the hilarious to the heart-wrenching. From birth or adoption to the empty nest, \u003cem\u003eThe Mother Dance\u003c\/em\u003e teaches the basic lessons of motherhood: that we are not in control of what happens to our children, that most of what we worry about doesn't happen, and that our children will love us with all our imperfections if we can do the same for them. 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We see how relationships are affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending and by brave -- but misguided -- efforts to tell the truth.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTruth-telling is at the heart of what is most central in women's lives. It is at the foundation of authenticity and creativity, intimacy and joy. Yet in the name of \"honesty\", we can bludgeon each other. We can approach a difficult issue with such a poor sense of timing and tact that we can actually shut down the lines of communication rather than widening the path of truth-telling.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSometimes Lerner's advice takes a surprising turn -- for example, when she asks us to engage in a bold act of pretending in order to discover something \"more real\"; or when she tells us not to parachute down on our family to bring up a \"hot issue\" without laying the necessary groundwork first.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhether the subject is affairs, family secrets, sexual faking or the challenge of \"being oneself\", Lerner helps us to discover, speak and live our own truths.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ch3\u003eBack Jacket\u003c\/h3\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhen \u003cem\u003eThe Dance of Deception\u003c\/em\u003ewas published, Lerner discovered that women were not eager to identify with the subject. \"Well, I don't do deception\" was a common resonse.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWe all \"do deception\", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on. \u003cem\u003eThe Dance of Deception\u003c\/em\u003eunravels the ways (and whys) that women show the false and hide the real -- even to our own selves. We see how relationships are affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending and by brave -- but misguided -- efforts to tell the truth.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTruth-telling is at the heart of what is most central in women's lives. It is at the foundation of authenticity and creativity, intimacy and joy. Yet in the name of \"honesty\", we can bludgeon each other. 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This book is a game changer.\" --Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of the #1 \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestseller \u003ci\u003eRising Strong\u003c\/i\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \"Harriet Lerner is one hell of a wise woman. She draws you in with deft and engaging prose and then changes your life with her rigorous intelligence and her deeply human advice. I promise that you will never see 'the apology' in quite the same way.\" --Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, author of \u003ci\u003eMating in Captivity\u003c\/i\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cb\u003eRenowned psychologist and bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eThe Dance of Anger\u003c\/i\u003e sheds new light on the power of a sincere apology--those two essential words, \"I'm sorry\"--and how apologizing can repair relationships, resolve conflict, and restore trust. In this insightful guide to emotional healing and relationship repair, Dr. Harriet Lerner offers a clear and compassionate perspective on why apologies are so difficult to give and why they matter so deeply.\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eDr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies--and why some people refuse to apologize--for more than two decades. Through compelling stories and grounded psychological insight, she shows how meaningful apologies can rebuild trust, repair damaged relationships, and promote genuine healing. Readers learn how to craft a heartfelt \"I'm sorry,\" recognize ineffective or manipulative apologies, and avoid the kinds of apologies that deepen hurt instead of resolving it. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ci\u003eWhy Won't You Apologize?\u003c\/i\u003e also addresses the needs of the injured party--the person hurt by someone who will not apologize, tell the truth, or show remorse. 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