{"title":"Nicole Lepera","description":"Dr. Nicole LePera is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Do the Work and How to Be the Love You Seek,  as well as the workbook How to Meet Your Self. She was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research and studied at the Institute for Modern Psychoanalysis of Philadelphia. She is a holistic psychologist whose work addresses the connections among the mind, body, and soul, incorporating overall lifestyle and psychological wellness practices. She is the creator of the #SelfHealers movement where people from around the world are joining together in community to take healing into their own hands.","products":[{"product_id":"how-to-be-the-love-you-seek-break-cycles-find-peace-and-heal-your-relationships-hardcover","title":"How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships - Hardcover","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eINSTANT #1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003e\"A practical, reader-friendly, and inspiring primer on how to extend true connection and love to others.\" --Gabor Maté M.D., New York Times bestselling author of The Myth of Normal\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eFrom the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller How to Do the Work comes this paradigm-shifting guide to healing your relationships, beginning with the one you have with yourself.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eRelationships have always been essential to human survival. Our bodies and brains are programmed to seek out connection, whether familial, romantic, or platonic. And yet, these vital bonds are often at the root of our deepest suffering. While our hearts are primed for compassionate connection, our nervous systems--which store all our past hurts and disappointments--are wired for threat and negativity.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eFor decades, leading relationship advice has maintained that successful relationships require a specific compromise--that we must change our authentic expression to better meet the needs of others, and vice versa. It may sound reasonable in theory, but as Dr. LePera explains, this approach is nothing less than a recipe for a lifetime of resentment.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn How to Be the Love You Seek, #1 New York Times bestselling author Dr. LePera--whose integrative, holistic approach to psychology has attracted an international audience of millions--offers a new path to healing our relationships. Harnessing the latest scientific research, she teaches us to recognize how unmet needs from our earliest relationships create our current, dysfunctional relationship patterns, and leave us in a state of constant internal threat, even with those closest to us.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book, the last in her \"How To\" trilogy, illuminates the way out of trauma bonds and into relationships rooted in mutual respect and compassion. In it, you will learn how to create safety in your own body and mind; identify your unmet needs; develop emotional resilience; cultivate heart coherence to build deep emotional connections with others; and maintain healthy interdependence in our communities.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhether you struggle to maintain the kinds of relationships you want, or are facing a specific challenge with a spouse, partner, parent, sibling, child, friend, or colleague--Dr. LePera teaches us how to break painful cycles and reconnect with the wisdom, appreciation, and compassion that lives in each of our hearts. It is our heart's innate capacity to love that is the true source of all healing. 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