{"title":"Rj Koehler","description":"","products":[{"product_id":"when-love-is-not-enough-parenting-a-child-with-trauma-reactive-attachment-disorder-and-borderline-traits-paperback","title":"When Love Is Not Enough: Parenting a Child with Trauma, Reactive Attachment Disorder and Borderline Traits - Paperback","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhen Love Is Not Enough: A Memoir of Parenting, Trauma, and Survival\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhat happens when love alone cannot save a child from their trauma? In \u003cb\u003eWhen Love Is Not Enough\u003c\/b\u003e, RJ Koehler shares a raw and honest memoir of one adoptive family's journey through Reactive Attachment Disorder, borderline personality traits, and the unhealed trauma of a young girl named Julia.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eJulia's early years left invisible wounds that shaped her identity, relationships, and ability to trust. What began as hope for a new start quickly became a cycle of manipulation, aggression, self-destruction, and emotional unpredictability. For years, her adoptive family fought to provide safety, structure, and love while surviving the daily crises her behaviors created.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eEven when Julia returned to her biological mother, the trauma followed, repeating the same painful patterns. This is a story of love and of letting go. It is the hard truth that sometimes saving someone is beyond your power, and survival requires courage, boundaries, and resilience.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eAlso by RJ Koehler: \u003c\/b\u003e \u003ci\u003eWhat He Didn't Break\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eChoosing Life After Loss\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eThe Weight of Silence\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFrequently Asked Questions (FAQ)\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhat is reactive attachment disorder (RAD)?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eRAD is a condition where a child has difficulty forming healthy emotional attachments due to early trauma or neglect.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhat are the signs of trauma in children?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSigns may include emotional outbursts, difficulty regulating behavior, attachment challenges, and intense reactions.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWho is this book for?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThis memoir is for parents, caregivers, educators, and professionals working with children who have experienced trauma.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eIs this based on real experiences?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYes. 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In \u003cb\u003eThe Weight of Silence\u003c\/b\u003e, RJ Koehler shares a powerful memoir of childhood trauma, resilience, and the journey toward reclaiming her voice.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eRaised in a family where difficult truths were unspoken, she learned early that silence could protect and speaking out came at a cost. This memoir explores how childhood trauma shapes identity, self-trust, relationships, and the ways we navigate the world as adults.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThrough honesty, reflection, and courage, RJ Koehler uncovers how survival strategies like compliance, people-pleasing, and self-doubt can follow us long after danger has passed and how we can unlearn these patterns to reclaim our sense of self.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis memoir is for anyone who: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eExperienced childhood trauma or emotional neglect\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eGrew up in families where silence was expected\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStruggles with boundaries, self-trust, or people-pleasing\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWants to reclaim their voice and identity\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eAlso by RJ Koehler: \u003c\/b\u003e \u003ci\u003eWhat He Didn't Break\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eWhen Love Is Not Enough\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eChoosing Life After Loss\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cb\u003eFrequently Asked Questions (FAQ)\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhat is childhood trauma?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eChildhood trauma refers to distressing or harmful experiences that impact emotional and psychological development.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eHow does childhood trauma affect adulthood?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIt can influence relationships, emotional regulation, and self-perception.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhat does \"reclaiming your voice\" mean?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIt means recognizing, understanding, and expressing experiences that were previously unspoken.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eIs this book based on real experiences?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYes. 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