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Highlights include: \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eCreate a shared vision for your relationship, the key to a strong foundation\u003cbr\u003e- It's all about prevention--learn tools and techniques for preventing problems before they occur\u003cbr\u003e- Understand how to work with the psychological and biological influences in your relationship--neuroscience, arousal regulation, attachment theory, and more\u003cbr\u003e- Numerous case studies with helpful examples of healthy and unhealthy interactions, sample dialogues, and reflections\u003cbr\u003e- Dozens of exercises--the newlywed game, reading facial expressions, and many more fun and serious practices to develop intimacy and security\u003cbr\u003e- Handling conflict--how to broker win-win outcomes\u003cbr\u003e- Build a loving relationship that helps you thrive and grow as both individuals and a couple \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eCommon interests, physical attraction, shared values, and good communication skills are the factors most commonly thought to indicate a good partnership. 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Every person is wired for love differently--with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and routines, making it possible to neurologically prime the brain for greater love and connection and fewer conflicts. This go-to guide will show you how. \u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e Drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this highly anticipated second edition of \u003ci\u003eWired for Love\u003c\/i\u003e presents cutting-edge research on how and why love lasts, and offers ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship. 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