by Phillip Lopate (Author)
In 1984, Phillip Lopate sat down with his mother, Frances, to listen to her life story. A strong, resilient, indomitable woman who lived through the major events of the 20th century, she was orphaned in childhood, ran away and married young, then reinvented herself as a mother, war factory worker, candy store owner, community organizer, clerk, actress and singer. But paired with exciting anecdotes are the criticisms of the husband who couldn't satisfy her, the details of numerous affairs and sexual encounters, and though she succeeded at many of her roles, Fran always felt mistreated, taken advantage of. After the interviews, at a loss for what to do with the tapes, Lopate put them away. But thirty years after, after his mother had passed away, Lopate found himself drawn back to the recordings of this conversation, and thus begins a three-way conversation between a mother, his younger self, and the person he is today.
Trying to break open the family myths, rationalizations, and self-deceptions, A Mother's Tale is about family members who love each other but who can't seem to overcome their mutual mistrust. Though Phillip is sympathizing to a point, he cannot join her in her operatic displays of self-pity and her blaming his father for everything that went wrong. His detached, ironic character has been formed partly in response to her melodramatic one. The climax is an argument in which he tries to persuade her, using logic, of all things, that he really does love her, and is only partially successful, of course. A Mother's Tale is about something primal and universal: the relationship between a mother and her child, the parent disappointed with the payback, the child, now fully grown, judgmental. The humor is in the details.Author Biography
Phillip Lopate is a central figure in the resurgence of the American essay and the author of The Art of the Personal Essay, Bachelorhood, and Against Joie de Vivre, among others. He is a professor in the graduate nonfiction program at Columbia University.
Number of Pages: 200
Dimensions: 0.7 x 9.3 x 6.2 IN
Publication Date: January 15, 2017
